While putting this website together, I kept running into the same question: how do I bring everything I’m into under one roof without feeling like I’m playing a different character every time I post?

There’s the business side of me. The wellness side. The music. The gaming and tech I can get lost in. The playful side that comes out when I’m comfortable. All of them are authentic. But the way I talk about a song with my friends isn’t necessarily how I’d speak in a business meeting. I understand that. Reading the room matters.

What got exhausting was trying to give every part of myself its own separate space. Different accounts, different audiences, different expectations. At some point, I thought, why am I making this so complicated? It’s still me.

That’s where Holistically Him started.

I wanted one place where you could choose what interests you. Maybe you’re here for business and wellness, and you couldn’t care less about my music opinions. Cool. You don’t have to be into everything I’m into to find something here worth your time.

But whatever brings you here, I want you to meet a person.

I take my work seriously. I also care about keeping my inner child alive: that playful, curious, free-spirited part of me that enjoys being here. I don’t want to spend my whole life keeping that part locked away just to look professional.

I see how much personality matters in my work as a trainer. When someone sits down for an assessment, they’re sometimes nervous. We’ve just met, and I’m asking them to talk about something personal: where they are, what they’re struggling with, and what they want to change.

Before I get into all of that, I want them to feel comfortable with me. I smile, introduce myself, and pay attention to how they respond. If I can get a genuine smile in those first couple of minutes, the conversation often gets easier.

I’m not running through jokes until one lands. If someone is quiet, I don’t need to overwhelm them with my energy. I need to get to know them.

When people feel comfortable, they can tell me what’s actually going on. That helps me understand how to help. Sometimes a consultation ends with a hug. What stays with me is that we’ve made a real connection.

That matters on both sides. Clients choose who they work with, and I pay attention to whether we can communicate respectfully, too. We don’t have to become best friends. But I want to do good work without sacrificing my peace.

That’s the energy I want here. Know what you’re talking about. Admit when you’re wrong. Have a real conversation. Enjoy yourself a little.

I’m still figuring out how all of this fits together. There’ll be things to learn here, but I don’t want every visit to feel like homework on becoming a better person. Sometimes we’re going to talk music. Sometimes we’ll get into business, gaming, or whatever’s caught my attention in tech. Sometimes something happens in life and it’s worth talking about.

I’m making room for all of it.

What’s a part of yourself you wish people got to see more often?